After reading several blogs with posts about the unhappy marriages people are living in, it saddens me to think that people stay in these marriages when they could be so much happier if they left. While I realize the feeling of failure that comes with ending your marriage, the wave of overwhelm that almost drowns you, there is a way to get through this without the chaos and drama that you have probably heard many of your friends go through (or perhaps you have gone through in a previous divorce). Hiring attorneys and preparing to spend the equivalent of your children’s’ educational savings can definitely stop people from moving forward in a divorce.
BUT – there is a better way. A more economical way and a less emotionally draining way. There is no reason to spend years in divorce court when you can spend a couple of months (or less) in a nice comfy room with a mediator, calmly discussing the issues that will shape your future. There is a wonderful book, The Two Roads to Divorce, written by Leonard Maslow, and he says it perfectly: if you and your spouse have been able to make decisions together without the help of an attorney throughout your entire marriage (and life), why do you feel you need an attorney to help you make these important decisions?
You are not facing a legal problem. You are facing a personal problem that has legal implications, just as many decisions you have made in the past do. While you do need guidance and knowledge, you do not need a stranger making decisions for you.
If this is the year you have decided to take the plunge and end your unhappy marriage, contact us at West Coast Family Mediation Center. We are here to help guide you, but we are not here to tell you what you should or should not do, or make decisions for you. You and your spouse are perfectly able to make those decisions. And, there is no one else that SHOULD be making those decisions. No one else has to live with the consequences of the decisions, only the two of you have to. So take a deep breath, pick up the phone, and make the call.
by: Jennifer Segura