Divorce can be an emotionally turbulent and expensive process. It can leave you feeling like you’re caught in a never-ending storm, with no end in sight. But there is a way to navigate the choppy waters of divorce with a little less turbulence: divorce mediation.
Being a divorce mediator in San Diego, California, for the last 15 years I’ve seen firsthand how divorce mediation can help couples part ways in a more peaceful, respectful, and cost-effective manner than traditional litigation. Here’s what you need to know about divorce mediation:
What is divorce mediation?
Divorce mediation is a process where a neutral third-party (that’s me!) helps couples communicate, negotiate, and find common ground on the issues that need to be resolved in their divorce. The mediator does not make decisions for the couple, but rather facilitates productive discussions between them.
What is the purpose of divorce mediation?
The purpose of divorce mediation is to help couples part ways in a more peaceful, respectful, and cost-effective manner than traditional litigation. It gives couples more control over the outcome and a chance to move forward with their lives in a positive direction. Plus, it can be much less expensive than going to court.
How does divorce mediation work?
During a divorce mediation, the mediator meets with the couple to discuss their issues and concerns. The mediator helps the couple communicate effectively and find solutions that work for both parties. The couple works together to make decisions about their property, finances, and any children they have together. Once the couple has reached an agreement, the mediator helps them prepare the necessary paperwork to finalize the divorce.
What are the benefits of divorce mediation?
Divorce mediation has many benefits, including:
- Control over the outcome: In mediation, the couple makes the decisions, not a judge.
- More cost-effective: Mediation is often much less expensive than traditional litigation.
- Less time-consuming: Mediation can be completed in a matter of weeks (if desired), or over a few months, while litigation can take years.
- Improved communication: Mediation can help couples communicate better and find common ground.
- More peaceful: Mediation is a much more peaceful process than traditional litigation.
- Less stressful for children: Mediation can be less stressful for children, as they see their parents working together to resolve their issues.
We have had so many couples come to us through referrals of our past clients who have told us they hope their divorce can be as friendly as the individuals who referred them. This is often 6-7-8 years after we have worked with the referring couple. They have so much gratitude for what our process has done for them and their families that they still remember us and refer us several years post their own divorce.
Our clients remind us daily the work we do matters. I couldn’t imagine doing any other work. I am truly so humbled that our community puts their trust in us to care for them and their children in one of the darkest times of their lives.
If you’re going through a divorce, consider divorce mediation as an option. It can help you navigate the choppy waters of divorce with a little less turbulence and set you on a course towards a brighter future.
by: Jennifer Segura