Everyone goes through different stages when separating from your spouse. Maybe you were the initiator of the split, and you are ready to move on with your life. Perhaps you were blindsided by the news and are just trying to get through the day. Either way, there is a way that you can find the silver lining. I know this sounds a bit crazy, but bear with me.
Self-Growth & Life Transformation
Life is all about change and growth. Growth isn’t easy. In fact, most times, it is quite painful. However, it doesn’t mean it is a negative thing. Try and change your thinking in those difficult moments. When you start in a mindset that doesn’t serve you, spend a moment to write down one thing that you have learned about yourself during your divorce.
During a divorce, a shift in self-identity occurs that can leave us feeling a bit lost. You were a husband or wife, and now you aren’t. You need to find yourself again. Spend time each day becoming mindful of who you are. Date yourself. Reacquaint yourself, with yourself.
Think of Opportunities Rather than Losses
Shifting your thinking is vital when it comes to giving thanks for your divorce. Instead of focusing on what you lost during your divorce, think about the possibilities in the future. Now you can concentrate on yourself exclusively, perhaps getting more time to pursue other interests. When you are ready to date, you can have an exciting time getting to know other people. Restructuring losses into opportunities is a great survival mechanism that will benefit you in spades.
If you are going through a divorce this holiday, and you want to stay out of court, we can help. Contact West Coast Family Mediation Center to schedule a free consultation.